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Trauma & Attachment Therapy
Robin Shapiro's psychotherapy book reviews, training reviews, clinical
experience, and musing about trauma, attachment, and affect-based therapies.
Article by Bonnie--
Children who live in fear may eventually pose a threat to society. That’s a
strong statement. Let me explain.
A child, for the most part, is born helpless. This child depends on caretakers
to get his needs met. At any time that that system fails, fear settles in. The
newborn has no mental ability to make sense of such a failure. The only
conclusion can be that the infant feels innately bad. The emotional construct that
develops is shame and it feels horrible!
If the caretaking system breaks down later in life, the brain will be more
developed and might be able to make meaning, rather than shame, out of the
experience. Humans are the most vulnerable from birth to age two or three and
the least vulnerable in the teeneage or adult years.
Children who have failed to deal with shame may feel intense fear and
possibly rage at the slightest provocation. Loving caretakers help normal
toddlers deal with their normal rage until they gain the ability to get it under
control themselves.
Those children who have nobody to calm them experience the growth of
shame and, therefore, the growth of fear and rage. Children who have been
neglected, abused, or abandoned may carry this intense shame, fear, and rage
with them.
Proper therapy and proper parenting or re-parenting (as in foster or adoptive
parenting) techniques help a hurt child make sense of what has happened to her.
Eventually, the shame makes less and less sense and she will let all or some of it
go.
Children who live with unrelieved shame, rage and fear can become angry
teenagers and young adults who do the unthinkable – like open fire in shopping
malls or classrooms. If someone is involved in the care or education of a child
who rages and is no longer a toddler, help is available.
For more information from Bonnie!
Robin Shapiro's psychotherapy book reviews, training reviews, clinical
experience, and musing about trauma, attachment, and affect-based therapies.
Article by Bonnie--
Children who live in fear may eventually pose a threat to society. That’s a
strong statement. Let me explain.
A child, for the most part, is born helpless. This child depends on caretakers
to get his needs met. At any time that that system fails, fear settles in. The
newborn has no mental ability to make sense of such a failure. The only
conclusion can be that the infant feels innately bad. The emotional construct that
develops is shame and it feels horrible!
If the caretaking system breaks down later in life, the brain will be more
developed and might be able to make meaning, rather than shame, out of the
experience. Humans are the most vulnerable from birth to age two or three and
the least vulnerable in the teeneage or adult years.
Children who have failed to deal with shame may feel intense fear and
possibly rage at the slightest provocation. Loving caretakers help normal
toddlers deal with their normal rage until they gain the ability to get it under
control themselves.
Those children who have nobody to calm them experience the growth of
shame and, therefore, the growth of fear and rage. Children who have been
neglected, abused, or abandoned may carry this intense shame, fear, and rage
with them.
Proper therapy and proper parenting or re-parenting (as in foster or adoptive
parenting) techniques help a hurt child make sense of what has happened to her.
Eventually, the shame makes less and less sense and she will let all or some of it
go.
Children who live with unrelieved shame, rage and fear can become angry
teenagers and young adults who do the unthinkable – like open fire in shopping
malls or classrooms. If someone is involved in the care or education of a child
who rages and is no longer a toddler, help is available.
For more information from Bonnie!